Why I Quit the LGBTQIA+ Community
By Chance
I have put in my two-week notice. I am quitting the LGBTQIA+ community. I will not be coming back.
Hello, my name is Chance. I am a lesbian, and I am leaving the LGBTQIA+ community. I am leaving primarily because I do not know it anymore. I do not feel a part of it, and I do not support its purpose which seems to have evolved from fighting for marriage equality to hyper-focusing on transgender rights.
Do not get me wrong, it is not that I do not think people should have rights. But what rights are Transgender people fighting for?
Part of what is being fought for is called “gender affirming healthcare”. This could include cross sex hormones or surgeries. Many transgender people will say these surgeries and hormones are lifesaving. Without them, they claim the transgender person may commit suicide.
I know I personally wanted to commit suicide. But not because I did not receive gender affirming health care, but because I did. This is something that I do not often tell people as I used to have a great deal of shame admitting that part of my past. You see, at one time, I had taken testosterone shots and identified as a transgender male. It has taken years to heal.
A Vanishing Community
As I told you I am a lesbian. I care deeply about women. I especially care about butch women and tomboys. But the way things are going, I think we may be a dying breed. Recently, I asked my niece who is in high school how many of her peers identified as lesbian? She could not name one. Rather, a whole slew of young women that are identifying as trans. This saddens me to no end. You see, if I could instill one thing in these young women it would be that it is okay to be a masculine girl or woman. Tomboy does not equal Transgender and there is no shame in being a lesbian.
For me personally, I cannot begin to describe to you the horror of my gender affirming healthcare. I took a full dose of testosterone for over 14 months. During that time, I physically began to change. Facial hair, deeper voice, and fat redistribution. I went by another name and used he/him pronouns. After about a year, the hormones really started to work. I did not look or sound like me anymore. I had also begun to lose my sense of self.
At the end of my transition, I also had a plane ticket to Florida where I was to get a double mastectomy. I started to get cold feet because I canceled my surgery. Then, reality hit me, almost like a divine intervention. I realized if I continued with hormones, I would be trapped in the wrong body. There would be no going back. I would be trapped in a body that was not mine. I would be trapped in my Gender Affirming Healthcare body for the rest of my life. I quit hormones immediately cold turkey. This was a disaster. My mood fluctuated dangerously and hourly. I was very suicidal. I needed to be hospitalized for a week.
Finding My Way
I tried looking for support for detransitioners like me. At the time, there were zero to no resources available. I found a few blogs on Tumblr with women who had detransitioned but I did not know anyone personally. It seemed like everyone was so willing to get me on the “transgender train” but no one was there to help me off. The resources I was able to find were like a lifeline for me. I read them repeatedly for a little hope and just to stay alive.
I remember early on after quitting HRT, I wanted to check into a women’s treatment center. I called them on the phone only to be informed that the facility was for women not men. You see, I was unrecognizable on the phone or in person as a woman.
It has taken years to recover from the trauma of transition and detransition. I am also one of the lucky ones. I was able to return living as my birth sex. Some women cannot because of long time hormone usage or disfiguring surgeries.
I am speaking out today because there are thousands of women that have previously identified as transgender males. It breaks my heart to read their stories of regret. I feel their pain intimately. Some women have more damage than others depending on how long they took HRT or what surgeries that might have. There is lasting emotional and mental damage. I know for me; I thought about the regret constantly and how I had ruined my life and body. It took years to recover from this.
Finding a Voice
There are people fighting to change things and I join them. I stand with Gays Against Groomers, Moms for Liberty, Do No Harm, Genspect and so many others that have the courage to speak out against what is happening.
I tell my story because other women need to hear it so maybe they will not feel quite so alone. They will read my story and have some hope. A young person considering this lifestyle will realize that cross-sex hormones and surgeries will not fix a thing and cause more problems than they can ever imagine. I am working towards creating a different world where young women do not feel like it is somehow better to look like a man. I would tell each one that they are beautiful on the inside and out just as they are. I wish I could save them from the pain of transition and detransition.
So, that is why I am leaving the LGBTQIA+ community. It is not the same community I marched with on Washington D.C. for Gay and Lesbian rights many years ago. It does not represent me. It does not protect women and children. And it is causing great harm to many of our young people.
Right now, in the Reddit detransition group we have over 55k members. Many of these new detransitioners are only 18 years of age, meaning, they were medically transitioned as teenagers, children. And you know what? They are broken and they have not even begun adulthood. Many of them do not have breasts. They have voices so deep that they are not even recognizable on the phone anymore as female or even in some cases are mistaken to be transgendered women. They have unwanted facial and body hair. And some even have the receding hairlines of a 45-year-old man. And can you imagine the mental and emotional toll from the constant despair and regret? It is immoral what is being done to these children and adolescents because this is the tragic result. And it must stop!
We must all speak out against the harmful transgender concepts that are hurting are young people who cannot consent to these barbaric Gender Affirming Surgeries, powerful cross sex hormones and puberty blockers. These are human rights violations on children and adolescents. And we are not going to be the people who go down in history as accepting or promoting experimental sex change operations on children and adolescents. No. We cannot accept this. We are not those people. We will fight to stop this war on children. Thank you for reading.
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